Claudia Willen and Kim Renfro
- Warning: This article contains spoilers for season two of "Love Is Blind."
- Shake and Deepti have been one of the most talked-about couples featured on Netflix's dating show.
- Here we break down the comments made by Shake that culminated with Deepti leaving him at the altar.
In the opening episode of season two, Shake is introduced to viewers with a compilation of his workaround questions for the women, clearly trying to get them to divulge their body size.
Abishek Chatterjee is introduced on the show as a 32-year-old veterinarian (and he goes by the nickname "Shake" throughout the show).
From the start, he was subverting the purpose of the "Love Is Blind" social experiment — for people to fall in love and find their spouses based purely on their personalities and notbased on their physical appearances.
While speaking with the women in their separated "pods," Shake asked prodding questions that seemed designed to give him an idea of what each woman's physical body looked like.
"I love buying clothes for girls," he asked Iyanna, one of the contestants. "What's your size?"
She responded with a laugh and said: "What the fuck?"
He also told another woman that he "gets along best with individuals that do work out."
Shake started his relationship with Deepti Vempati (who he calls "Deeps") by asking if he'd be able to pick her up.
The way the episode was edited has Shake's introductory segment end with him asking Deepti (his soon-to-be fiancée) if she would enjoy being on a guy's shoulders at a music festival.
When she said yes, he then got to the point: "Will I have trouble picking you up?"
"That comes off very superficial," Deepti replied.
Even though she appeared to identify this as a red flag from Shake, he later showed remorse for asking that question and seemed to self-reflect on his superficiality. Deepti decided to give him a second chance.
Unfortunately, Shake would later double down on his original way of thinking. Later in the show, Deepti admitted she was "terrified" to meet him in case he judged the way she looked.
Despite his own high standards for physical fitness, Shake tells one of the guys that his body is not his "strong suit."
"If I'm not working out, I make bad diet choices," he said while in the guys-only lounge during the dating process. "Yeah, not winning any body contests over here. Not my strong suit."
Viewers immediately pointed out the hypocrisy after Shake spent many of his dates asking about the women's body sizes.
Later he admits to reflecting on that "superficial" approach, but his future actions discount that admission.
Also in the opening episode, Shake told a 33-year-old woman that he prefers "dating younger."
Shake, who is 32-years-old, told a 33-year-old contestant that he would prefer if she was "younger," which viewers again associated with Shake's seeming fixation on appearance.
Ultimately Shake proposed to Deepti, who is 30 years old.
After Deepti accepted Shake's proposal, he told the cameras that he was going to grab her butt as soon as he saw her.
To the camera, he jokes about grabbing her with both hands as soon as he meets her. A moment later, he clarifies what he meant: "I already let her know, from here on out if she's within a two-mile radius of me that booty is not safe."
True to his word, Shake grabbed Deepti's rear-end during their first embrace. She later laughed and told the cameras she loved it, but from a viewer's position, it seemed like a disrespectful way to approach your fiancée for the first time (especially on TV).
Upon first seeing Deepti, Shake seemed so overtaken with physical attraction that he told her he was going to "get her pregnant."
Within minutes of seeing Deepti in person for the first time, Shake made some very forward comments.
"I'm gonna get you pregnant," he whispered in her ear.
Shake's behavior towards Deepti shifts after seeing her in a bathing suit for the first time.
After emotionally connecting in the pods, Deepti and Shake have an opportunity to explore the physical side of their relationship during a trip to Mexico.
Upon arrival at their suite, Deepti grows nervous about wearing a bikini in front of her fiancé. After all, she's had her own insecurities with her body image and is cognizant of the importance he places on the "physical aspect" of the relationship. So, she worries that he won't find her attractive without clothes on.
Deepti eventually removes her coverup and steps into their private pool, and, at first, Shake repeats an affirming "yes" as she enters the water and kisses her. At one point, he calls her "tiny."
The scene marks a major shift in his behavior though. As his fiancée vocalizes her dreams for their future, he becomes visibly uncomfortable.
"I think our babies are going to be so cute and smart. I feel like we're both ready to commit to each other and I'm excited to just connect with you on all of these levels," she says, adding, "Do you just want to get married? Like, say, 'Fuck it?'"
Shake's eyes dart around as he insists that he's "trying to take it one hour at a time," ignoring the fact that days earlier he said he wanted to impregnate her.
In a subsequent confessional, he's apprehensive about the couple's lack of "body connection" and acknowledges that he's talked openly about a future marriage and children with her before that point.
"Hearing that back from Deeps, at times, it feels amazing to hear that, but at times, it feels really scary," he says.
Shake tells Jarrette Jones that he's not physically attracted to Deepti, likening her to an aunt.
All the couples gather face-to-face in Mexico, and different clusters of cast members divulge the intimate details of their vacations thus far.
Deepti says she and Shake have been "emotionally intimate" with "lots of heavy cuddling" but decided against sleeping together. "We have lots of time," she rationalizes to the other women.
Shake tells a different story.
In a side conversation with Jarrette, he calls Deepti the "No. 1 hype girl" he could ever ask for. Jarrette doesn't hide his shock, and the women catch wind that the duo is talking about Deepti.
"I'm not physically attracted to her," Shake says in a more hushed tone. "It feels like I'm with my aunt."
Deepti shows Shake unwavering support when he comes up with a list of issues that could arise outside of the pods.
During a sit-down dinner, Deepti expresses her excitement about living a real life with Shake outside of the pods. Rather than reciprocating her feelings, he comes up with a list of potential issues that may arise.
"I'm approaching a point in my life where I'm going to have to grind. I'm opening a business. I'm opening an animal hospital. It does make me nervous because I love to have a good time, but I have a lot of responsibility coming up," the veterinarian says.
Deepti agrees that they're on the same page for the future, going one step further and assuring him of her commitment.
"I'm here to support you in this career-oriented journey that you're on. I understand it because now is the time to grind. Now is the time when you're young and you have that energy to put everything you have into your career so that you can enjoy your life later," she says, adding, "I would love to be with you on that journey."
After Deepti offers her support, Shake completely changes his tune. He suggests that they should "focus less on what could go wrong" and "focus more on what could go right."
"At this point, I can't wait to move in together. I think it's going to be awesome," he tells her.
In a confessional, Shake tries to convince himself that he needs an "amazing, supportive woman" like Deepti even if he doesn't have the "lusty, physical" relationship he's sought in the past.
Shake convinces Deepti that she's wrong about mixing wasabi with soy sauce, but she's actually right.
The couple orders take-out sushi to Shake's apartment in episode six.
"Interesting there," Deepti says as she watches her fiancé mix his wasabi and soy sauce.
He replies, "That's interesting? That's what you're supposed to do."
She questions why a person would mix a palate cleanser with soy sauce, and he jumps in to say that ginger, not wasabi, is a palate cleanser.
When Deepti pushes back, he compares her reaction to the mixture to someone being weirded out by spaghetti and meatballs, an obvious combination. "You are just so wrong," he tells her.
They agree to bet on the right answer, wagering a date night planned by the losing party. Reading off of his phone, Shake tells Deepti that a sushi eater is supposed to eat ginger between different pieces as a palate cleanser and declares himself the winner.
However, Deepti's original reaction to Shake's mixture is actually correct.
Sushi chefs told the Japanese news outlet SoraNews24 that combining soy sauce with wasabi into a creation called "wasabi joyu" is not considered proper sushi-eating etiquette in Japan.
According to the report, wasabi joyu dulls the wasabi's flavor and taints the soy sauce.
Shake tells his mother that he doesn't have an "animalistic attraction" to Deepti.
Deepti wins over Shake's family the first time she meets them. His mother, Sita, believes they have a real shot at a successful marriage. In her eyes, Deepti "complements" her son and "accepts his weaknesses."
But in a side conversation that happens during the visit, the veterinarian tells Sita that he doesn't have an "instinctual attraction" or "animalistic attraction" to his fiancée, who he says is otherwise "perfect."
After hearing him out, Sita sides with Deepti.
"Being really frank, I'm very much identifying with her right now more than you," she tells him. "She could find someone who absolutely loves her the way she is, and she's a wonderful person. She doesn't deserve someone who gives her even half a percent less."
Shake has a subtle way of speaking about Deepti to his friends that signals his disrespect for his fiancée.
While speaking with his friends during the eighth episode, Shake says "they gave me the perfect woman" (presumably referring to the "Love Is Blind" production team).
It's a small detail, but referring to Deepti as if she's been "given" to him speaks volumes about the way Shake views her as an equal in their relationship. Viewers pointed out he was acting as if she was forced upon him and now she's a thing he has to deal with, instead of a woman he proposed marriage to.
Five days before their wedding, Shake told Shayne another comparison between Deepti and his "aunt."
"She reminds me so much of my aunt," he tells the fellow contestant.
Shayne tries encouraging Shake to make an effort to set a romantic mood (like putting on some Boyz II Men), but Shake continues doubling down on his feelings of familial affection towards his fiancée without being able to give a reason why.
Despite Deepti being a couple of years younger than him, Shake continues to equate her with an older relative. This brings back an earlier red flag of Shake seeming to prefer "younger" women.
During their final date before the wedding, Shake tells the cameras that he had told Deepti he wanted to "fuck [her] emotionally" before he actually had sex with her.
His sentence continued: "Before I find out you're good in bed, I want to find out you're good in head."
Shake says he planned the massage date specifically to try and ease the "stress" of his pre-wedding jitters.
"Maybe if we started having sex, maybe those feelings of always wanting to be in each other's arms would form," he tells the cameras. "The irony here is that how can I know if I want to marry Deeps if I don't have sex with her?"
After the show had aired on Netflix, Deepti told BuzzFeed that this date was a "pivotal moment" in her decision to end their relationship.
"It was really to instill some intimacy and to bring us closer together on that level — but it felt so disingenuous and like we were forcing it," she said.
She continued: "I had the epiphany that like, 'Why am I trying to prove to this person to see me? I'm done trying, I'm over this. I just need to move forward and figure out what I want — instead of trying to figure out why he doesn't want me, do I even want him?'"
After all of these negative comments about the lack of physical chemistry Shake has with Deepti, his reaction to seeing her on their wedding day was: "You look hot."
As Deepti walked down the aisle, Shake said "whoa" and "oh man," almost as if in surprise.
Once she was close enough, he whispered, "You look hot."
The moment elicited a laugh from Deepti and some of the guests, but for viewers at home, this was an eye-roll-worthy comment.
After Deepti dumps him, Shake claims she would have said "I do" if he had said it first.
"If I would've said yes, she would have said yes," he tells the cameras after Deepti leaves him at the altar.
Even if it was just a way for him to save face, this comment added to viewers' sense that he was remorseless.
After Deepti's departure, Shake immediately turned to "party" mode.
Shake told the shocked attendees that the failed wedding was still a "celebration" and encouraged the musicians to begin playing again. He postured happiness to friends and family, saying the experience was a "net positive."
Shake made no effort (that viewers were shown, anyways) to speak to Deepti about the breakup, nor did he take any time to self-reflect on why she might have left.
Instead, the whole incident seems to roll right off him, further implying that his affections for her were never real.
Disclosure: Mathias Döpfner, CEO of Business Insider's parent company, Axel Springer, is a Netflix board member.